Should I reach out to my ex?

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I would like to reconnect with my ex-boyfriend because I think we can rebuild our relationship. He hasn't been in touch with me since we broke up around six months ago, but I know he still cares and thinks about me because his social media passwords haven't changed since then. We used to share passwords, and I know what his are, so I was surprised when I realised that he trusts me with them even now. I know we haven't been speaking, but maybe this is a sign that he will be open to a conversation if I reach out. What should I do?
If there was a sign, it would have to be more direct, because not changing passwords and wanting to be with someone are two different things. Think about why your relationship ended, what you both thought of at the time, and why he hasn't reached out in six months. Optimism can be a great thing, but not when it isn't grounded in reality. If you want to get back with him or believe there may be an opportunity for a second chance, the sensible thing would be to message him and see how he reacts. Looking for tentative signs leaves things open for misinterpretation and also makes you vulnerable. Reach out and, if there are no clear or direct indications of him wanting to chat, accept that this has no future. It may save you from pain.

My partner acts like he is single when he goes to parties where I am not around. I heard about this from two friends who met him, and they were surprised because they thought we had broken up. What do I tell him?
Ask your friends for specifics about why they felt the way they did and then ask your boyfriend why he chose to behave in this manner. It's possible that they misinterpreted his actions, and he may not have an inkling of how he may be perceived. It's best to be direct with these concerns.

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