Don’t think he’ll divorce his wife!

Illustration/Uday Mohite

How do I break off my relationship with a married man? He and his wife have been separated for almost a year now, but he isn't divorced yet and I don't know when that will happen. He keeps saying he needs some more time, but I can't wait any longer because it makes me feel as if he is just taking advantage of my feelings for him. The reason I haven't walked away yet is because I have been hopeful of him accepting me as his lawful partner. We are very much in love, but I don't know if that is enough. Am I being too hasty? Should I give him more time to resolve things with his wife?
The law does not recognise your relationship because your partner is married. If you feel as if you are being taken advantage of, it's important to trust your instinct because actions speak louder than words when it comes to declarations of love. This isn't to say this man is doing something wrong, as much as it is a reminder that you are an adult in control of your life. If you feel as if you can't wait any longer for things to change, and he can't do anything about it, this relationship is already over. Hope is a good thing, but you alone can decide how much longer you think you can hold on to it.

I keep feeling as if I am rejected by men more often than my friends are. I use dating apps and often meet someone one or two times before they call it off. How do I figure out if I'm putting them off in some way without knowing it?
Apps have changed how human beings see each other, so assuming that you're to blame may not be the right thing. If someone doesn't want to invest the time and energy I getting to know you better, they are the problem. Keep meeting new people, be patient, and don't be so hard on yourself.

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