If it’s on your mind, an opinion can’t hurt your friendship. Tell her how you feel and accept her response with an open mind
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I really like my best friend’s brother, but don’t know how she will react if I tell her this. I don’t think she will have a problem with the idea, but I believe she may still ask me to give it up because of how it may have an impact on our friendship. Her reasons may be sensible because I don’t want to ruin our friendship, but I also think about him all the time and feel as if I may regret it if I say nothing. Should I take the risk and just tell her?
You presumably know nothing about her brother’s feelings, so everything you believe may or may not happen is based on speculation. Your friend may have great reasons for you to not be with him, but that is also a possibility that isn’t grounded in any fact. You should be able to have this conversation with someone you trust, so speaking about it and hearing what she has to say is the smart thing to do. She has a right to put forth her arguments, and you may find out something about her brother that you haven’t considered before. If it’s on your mind, an opinion can’t hurt your friendship. Tell her how you feel and accept her response with an open mind.
Should I marry someone now or wait until I finish my studies? He wants me to do it because he says it will allow us to move to a place of our own and also take a lot of pressure from his family off his shoulders. I only worry that marriage and running a household may have an adverse effect on my academic career. What do I do?
Marriage is a lifelong commitment and accepting it should be based on your level of comfort. His reasons may be sound, but he also needs to understand that your state of mind and mental well-being will go a long way towards making sure those critical early years together are easier to manage.
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