If this bothers you, nothing stops you from asking her what she thinks about where this is going
Illustration/Uday Mohite
I have been spending a lot of time with a guy and feel like we have a definite spark between us. There is banter, a lot of chemistry, and I sometimes feel as if we are on the verge of getting into a relationship. The weird thing is this is only my feeling. He’s clueless and I often wonder if it’s deliberate or if he just doesn’t see us the way I do. We hang out a lot, which means he likes being with me, but he never speaks about anything other than mundane stuff and I don’t know how he doesn’t feel what we have. Should I ask him directly? I don’t want to say anything because it will be embarrassing if this is one-sided, but it’s ridiculous how well we get along. What do I do?
If it’s on your mind a lot, the possibility of embarrassment shouldn’t stop you from speaking up. You don’t have to ask him if he likes you, but you can always tell him how you feel and see how he responds. Putting yourself out there is always tricky because you are vulnerable, but you also have to trust your instincts at times and be ready to accept someone’s decision because that is what adulthood is about. Nothing stops you both from continuing to be friends if you genuinely like each other’s company. The sooner you get this conversation out of the way, the easier it may be for you to deal with any possible awkwardness.
How do I know if someone is just stringing me along? I have been dating a girl for two months and don’t know if she likes me or just likes the fact that I always take her to fancy restaurants.
To ascribe the worst possible intentions to her is unfair because it will only make you resent her. Remember that people sometimes take time to open up. If this bothers you, nothing stops you from asking her what she thinks about where this is going.
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