You can choose to stop meeting her at any point, given that you are no closer to figuring out if there is a future here
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I am a 41-year-old woman and have been married for a little over six years. It is not a happy marriage, and I am ready to get a divorce. I don’t know how my husband will react which is the only reason I haven’t had a conversation with him yet. I am hoping he will agree and that this will be amicable, but if it turns ugly and there are financial repercussions, I am nervous about what this means for my future. What are things I should consider before saying anything about this to him? Also, should I stay in the marriage if a divorce isn’t feasible, even if this is bad for my mental health?
First of all, your physical and mental wellbeing matters more than anything else, because it’s your life and future at stake. Having said that, the end of any relationship can be undeniably taxing if one or both partners don’t approach it in the right spirit. You need good advice from people you can trust, as well as professionals who deal exclusively with divorce and financial matters. Speak to a lawyer, find out what your rights are, and get a better sense of where you stand financially before you initiate any conversation. The more information you have, the easier it will be for you to make a smarter decision.
There is a girl who agrees to go out with me when I ask her out to dinner but never commits to anything even though I have repeatedly told her that I would like to be in an exclusive relationship. It feels as if she is deliberately messing with my head because she knows she has the upper hand. What should I do?
You have made your intentions clear, and she has refused to reciprocate. It sounds as if the decision to continue with this is yours entirely. You can choose to stop meeting her at any point, given that you are no closer to figuring out if there is a future here.
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