Was he cheating on me all along?

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I ended my relationship with a guy after a year because I found out that he was on dating sites while going out with me. He always refused to acknowledge that he was doing anything wrong and said it was healthy to keep track of the kind of people who were single and looking for relationships. I thought his reasons made no sense and repeatedly told him to uninstall the apps if he wanted to be with me. After a point, it became too much, and I broke up with him even though I was still in love with him. Now, when I think about it, I wonder if he was cheating on me all this time and if I was too naïve to see it. How do I overcome my anger at being used like this?
You don't know if he was being unfaithful, and you did the right thing by making a decision based upon your best interests. It is obvious that this person was disrespectful to you, and ending it was the best thing to do. You can choose to believe the worst about him, of course, because no one can tell you how to feel, but it may be healthier to dwell upon what you escaped and why you made that decision. He is in your past and belongs there. The sooner you embrace the future, the easier it will be for you to forget about that episode. It may be hard for a while but keep putting yourself first and you will get there.

How do I cope with the fact that my girlfriend always seeks out a male friend for emotional support because she thinks I can't help?
She's telling you something and you should listen. Ask questions, find out more about what she needs, and keep working on how you can offer the support that matters. Also accept that it's okay for her to lean on a friend, even if he happens to be male, because she isn't doing anything wrong.

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